Thursday, July 30, 2015
Monday, July 27, 2015
Learning from the Struggles of Others
The last few months have been a whirlwind for me and clearly I've been a little bit absent as of late - for that my dear readers I apologize for leaving you dangling in the wind as I finished my Master's degree. But enough dawdling!
Like all of us at one point or another, she is struggling. I see her struggles in her Facebook posts and sometimes the lack there of, I see her struggles in her texts to me and feel her pain when she doesn't respond to my attempt to check up on her.
As a cheerleader, as the lended ear and or shoulder to cry on, you get the front row seat of observation. Not only do you get to pin point all the steps and turns that brought your friends struggle but you get to see how it could have been prevented. This does NOT give you the right to JUDGE but it gives you the freedom to stop and take stock on your own life to see if you are truly on the right path for you. To ask yourself the question you may have advised your friend to ask: Does this action really benefit me, my life, or my future?
When you can help and guide someone, even if all you do is listen in silence, you gain the best experience short of going through the struggle yourself. Thinking of their struggle as a mini-life-lesson can teach you a lot about yourself; your strength's - your weaknesses. How you handle their struggle either through advice or through listening gives you insight as well. Each moment of interaction as you stand beside your friend is a learning moment for the both of you. When done correctly you will both come out on the other side better people and with a friendship bond that has been made greater by the experience. Ultimately our biggest struggle in life is that of our connection to those around us, so stop and listen, learn, and grow every chance you can because some day you may be the one who is struggling looking for a cheerleader, a shoulder to cry on, and someone else's sage advice.
With Health, Wealth, and Wisdom!
Your's truly!
Have you ever met someone who you instantly bonded with? Yeah?! Me too!
Well, that has been my life over the past 2 months. Through an odd attempt at a business venture I met some very wonderful women and connected with one of them on a level akin to well kin. It's like she is the long lost sister I never knew I had which is amazing because on closer inspection we have so little in common.
Well, that has been my life over the past 2 months. Through an odd attempt at a business venture I met some very wonderful women and connected with one of them on a level akin to well kin. It's like she is the long lost sister I never knew I had which is amazing because on closer inspection we have so little in common.
Like all of us at one point or another, she is struggling. I see her struggles in her Facebook posts and sometimes the lack there of, I see her struggles in her texts to me and feel her pain when she doesn't respond to my attempt to check up on her.
My advice to her when I give it, is based off my own experiences for really what else is there any of us can teach or preach to someone else? Sure we can verbally vomit some sage commentary from a book we read but to truly help someone else through their own personal struggle all we can and really should do is offer them an ear. Her struggles are her own and really only she can be the one to solve them, to muster through and defeat them! I'm just here to be her cheerleader; that's not so say I won't offer advice if she asks -and she does; how she chooses to use that advice is strictly up to her.
So, I'm sure you dear reader are wondering, how exactly do "I" learn from someone else's struggle?
When you can help and guide someone, even if all you do is listen in silence, you gain the best experience short of going through the struggle yourself. Thinking of their struggle as a mini-life-lesson can teach you a lot about yourself; your strength's - your weaknesses. How you handle their struggle either through advice or through listening gives you insight as well. Each moment of interaction as you stand beside your friend is a learning moment for the both of you. When done correctly you will both come out on the other side better people and with a friendship bond that has been made greater by the experience. Ultimately our biggest struggle in life is that of our connection to those around us, so stop and listen, learn, and grow every chance you can because some day you may be the one who is struggling looking for a cheerleader, a shoulder to cry on, and someone else's sage advice.
With Health, Wealth, and Wisdom!
Your's truly!
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